When my 22-year marriage ended, I was floored. I didn’t see it coming, and suddenly everything I thought was solid — our plans, our home life, the future — was gone.
I’d just turned 50. I had three teenage daughters, no real grip on the family finances, and was completely unprepared for what came next — emotionally and practically. The legal side felt like a foreign language. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and trying to keep going while everything around me was changing.
The emotional toll was huge. Grief, shock, fear, anger — sometimes all at once. There were days I couldn’t think straight. At the same time, I was dealing with a cancer scare and supporting my mother through dementia, which only added to the weight of it all.
Then I came across coaching — and for the first time, I found space to stop, think, and work out a way forward. It helped me get back on my feet, rebuild my confidence, and make sense of what had happened. I later trained as a coach and counsellor myself, combining what I’d learned with what I’d lived.
Now, I work with people going through separation or divorce — helping them steady the ship, manage the emotional fallout, and think more clearly at a time when everything feels messy and uncertain.
I won’t bombard you with jargon or false positivity. I offer a calm, steady approach and a clear head when yours might be spinning. I understand how easy it is to get drawn into the drama or lost in the legal maze — but it doesn’t have to be that way. With the right support, you can make better decisions and come through it in one piece — even stronger than before. Like the phoenix emerging from the ashes.
I also work with people who are neurodiverse and understand the impact that can have in a breakup. And as a former military wife, I get the extra layers that can come with that life too.
Divorce is tough — no getting around it — but it doesn’t have to define you. There is life after it. And you don’t have to figure it all out alone.